When I went into the maternity hospital in 2000 I wasn’t particularly worried, how things can change in a matter of hours.
Originally my consultant had agreed caesarean would be best due to my Arthritis but some Midwife decided she knew better. It’s a long story but I can still hear a shrill scream and find it hard to believe it was from me.
Eventually I had the caesarean with general anaesthetic, everything was last minute, it was now an emergency despite being in the hospital 12 hours.
My husband said I was rushed one way, our baby boy another on his way to Special Baby Care. I remember the Anaesthetists coming to see how I was, I thought that was routine only learning later they had trouble inserting the breathing tubes.
Luckily, and I believe it was luck, we both recovered from the ordeal and my son thrived.
Those first days in the hospital were a struggle for me, I didn’t see my baby until he was 3 days old, my husband (a counsellor) believes I had PTSD after the birth.
We’re 16 years on now and except for monthly check-ups in the first 12 months of his life my son has been fine, which is a miracle.
My husband works in bereavement care and we know what happened to us has happened to others, and some have had the devastating outcome of losing their child.
I often thought of going back and asking questions, there are points throughout the day where I believe errors were made but luckily we had a happy outcome, but what about those who didn’t.
Today it’s more common to find help to support you when asking the questions I didn’t ask, especially at a time when you can’t think straight but you believe there was failure or neglect in your care.
If you think there was neglect then there may be additional support you can get. Specialist companies like First4SeriousInjury can help you understand whether you are eligible for compensation and support you through the process, compensation can be an important part of getting your life back on track especially in cases where you or your child may have been left with serious health complications.
My son had Meconium Aspiration and although the quick transfer to SCBU and a ventilator meant he had no permanent issues I won’t forget that in our circumstances it was an error of judgement by one Midwife that led us to this situation.