Christmas is over, new year begun and on Monday most of us will be back to routine, but amidst the chaos of celebration and wrapping paper did anyone sit the kids down to write thank-you notes. It’s a struggle to get our teen to write anything never mind a note.
Just before Christmas the Royal Mail held a survey to find out what people thought about thank-you notes, two thousand over 18’s expressed their opinions. The majority of people said a written thank-you note makes them feel loved and appreciated, and a note is more personal than a mention on Facebook or Twitter.
Surprisingly to me, half of those polled said they would not buy as good a gift next year if they did not receive thanks via a note, and some said they wouldn’t send a gift at all.
I imagine this was an older section of those surveyed. I remember as a child writing thank-you letters to my grandparents, but we didn’t see them on Christmas Day and neither of us had telephones, so there was no alternative.
I know our 26-year-old would be happy with a text or email. His generation would usually give thanks in a telephone call, like he to his Grandparents, which I know they appreciated
Etiquette experts Debrett’s says:
‘Thank-you letters are necessary to acknowledge presents given for Christmas, christenings, weddings, birthdays and anniversaries. Refer to the present directly and include some details to personalise the tone of the letter.”
They also advise letters be sent within 10 days of Christmas, but with texts, email, Facebook and Twitter is the written note an outdated way of saying thank you?
Where etiquette is concerned, surely the important thing is the ‘Thank you’ however it’s conveyed, and maybe for Debrett’s the time has come to accept the use of technology.
What do you think?