This morning I have been researching motivation and revision help for teens.
I am losing the will to continue calm cajoling, and am close to screaming and shouting, although it might make me feel better for 5 minutes I know this will get us nowhere.
In my search for a new innovative miracle I came across this, not what I was looking for:
Which reminded me!
This year my son has been on his game system more than ever before, he chats with friends and they use it as a social get together in the evening.
Our son is a good student, we’ve always trusted him and he was on track with his grades, but now they have slipped and as it’s GCSE’s starting in May it’s time for action. There are lots of tips but I think this is the one we need to go back to.
Establish a routine. Send the message that schoolwork is a top priority with ground rules like setting a regular time and place each day for revision to be done. And make it clear that there’s no TV, phone calls, video game-playing, etc., until it’s done and checked.
We used to do this, what happened?
When things are going well we can all get a little complacent, relax the rules a bit and forget routine.
The important thing is not to panic. Child development experts with the Kids Health website say the good news is, not putting school work as a priority doesn’t mean they lack motivation in general. Teens see other things as being more important, like Social activities. Parents can help by explaining the benefits of why schoolwork needs to take a higher priority over other activities even though it takes time to do.
Teens may need incentives to get them to buckle down and do a bit of revision every night. Besides rewarding with treats for completing assignments, make it clear what the consequences will be if they don’t study when supposed to, (no social media usually works). Making rules for doing homework/revision teaches your teen to be responsible and self-disciplined as you prepare them for life in the real world.
So we have had a discussion and today’s homework and revision has gone well, it has taken up most of his day (including a few breaks) as from now the old regime is back.
Now we just need to keep it up until GCSE’s!