Talk about it Tuesday – 10 May 16

Dying Matters

Did you know this week is Dying Matters Awareness week?  This campaign aims to provide the opportunity to talk about dying, death, bereavement, and making plans for the end of life. This year’s theme is ‘The Big Conversation’.

I’ve had ‘The big conversation?’  After my Mum had been very ill and miraculously recovered (honestly the medical staff couldn’t believe it) we were talking about how ill she had been. The conversation turned to funerals, and I asked Mum if she would be cremated or buried, after a short pause she said cremated. She then added, we are running out of burial land and if coffins were interred vertically you could end up upside down forever, we then burst out laughing and that was that.

So years later when she did die, I knew she wanted to be cremated and her ashes scattered on the rose garden.

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Dying Matters is a coalition of 32,000 members across England and Wales which aims to help people talk more openly about dying, death and bereavement, and to make plans for the end of life.

Write your will
Record your funeral wishes
Plan your future care and support
Consider registering as an organ donor
Tell your loved ones your wishes

Join the twitter chat and ask any questions you have

It’s a hard conversation to have but you may find the right moment as we did, and we were glad to have had it.

I also asked her if she realised how ill she had been, she said yes, but I wasn’t ready to leave you kids.

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4 Comments

  1. May 13, 2016 / 12:03

    Sorry I didn’t spot this before. We’ve always been very open with our children about death, one of the benefits of having autistic members of our family who will talk about anything that interests them. Thankfully though, because when we lost Elspeth so suddenly we knew her wishes and were able to discuss it openly with all of the children without too much awkwardness. It is a certainty, and pretending it doesn’t exist until it happens is not the best for anyone’s health xx

    • May 13, 2016 / 13:14

      You are right Jenny, my husband is a counsellor and he says being able to talk afterwards if you want to is so important too. xx

  2. May 10, 2016 / 19:51

    It’s a good idea. Following on from my dad’s death and sorting out his affairs we were far more aware of the need for this kind of conversation, which we’ve now had. Nobody likes to think about their own passing but there are so many decisions to make that it’s really important. xx

    • May 10, 2016 / 21:20

      My Mum was Catholic & I knew her sisters would say she couldn’t be cremated, I was confident knowing it was what she wanted. x

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