Pudsey Pride

Oh Pudsey how your image, inspires us to donate

On a night of fun and frivolity, that makes us all feel great

But interspersed with sadness, of tales so raw and true

As images of children in need, inspire to support you

In a time of government cutbacks and money being tight

who’d have thought last years target, could be smashed in just one night

So now the night, is over and thank you everyone

and this is where your money goes so support can carry on:

Helping under 18’s dealing with

Illness, distress, abuse or neglect

Any kind of disability

Behavioural or psychological difficulties

Living in poverty or situations of deprivation

A project to run a variety of extra curricular clubs within school, specifically aimed at SEN children, which will hopefully help build self esteem and confidence, encourage new friendships and help widen the opportunities for children to succeed.

A project to allow day time opening at weekends of an emergency over night hostel that is normally closed during the day time, which caters to the needs of young homeless teenagers.

  • A project to work with young people with aspergers, ADHD and emotional and wellbeing issues to carry out an intergenerational oral history project to increase confidence, team working skills and improve relations between family members.

    Mental Health Young Carers Support project will provide flexible outreach support for Young Carers who care for parent(s) with mental illness, alcohol or substance misuse issues.

    The Children and Young People’s Counselling Service will provide counselling to children and young people who have suffered sexual violence via a range of approaches to benefit the individual needs of children.

Halloween Haunted House!

halloween decorated haunted house

This poem was written by me about 25 years ago for my god-daughter’s school project. It holds fond memories for us, and now her own three girls.

Dare you read it all alone.

 Haunted House

I think there’s something moving, over by that chair

But when I take a closer look it seems there’s nothing there

Look something shot across the room, that gave me such a fright

I hate being at home alone, especially at night

And now there’s something creaking, it’s the bedroom door

Oh I really hate this house, I’m not staying anymore

I know that i’m just nervous, but the thing I hate the most

Is, I shouldn’t be so frightened,  ‘cos I’m the bloomin’ ghost.

©theuncheshirewife.com

Does our guilt stop children doing chores?

On Saturday I went food shopping, it’s not the best day to do the shopping as it is exceptionally busy, but needs must so I braved the mayhem.   When I got home I called the 15yo to help bring it in and straight away my husband said, “I’ll do it.” I insisted our son helped and it was all brought in.

I have noticed this happening a lot in our house, why does my husband think the 15yo doesn’t have to help around the house. Every time I ask him to help with something Dad steps in and it’s driving me insane!  I am keen for him to be able to take care of himself when older and although I wouldn’t ask him to cook tea I do think there are other things he could do.

A survey showed a quarter of children aged between 5 – 16 do nothing to help around the house.  For those who do pitch in with the chores, this means simply tidying their bedroom.

Children spend far less time helping out with chores than they did 20 years ago, a vast number of youngsters aren’t having to do anything at all to help their  parents, yet with hectic lives and the increased number of working mums we feel busier than ever.

I did my own little survey.

A friends 16 yo daughter does no housework help or shopping but she does look after her 10 yo brother after school. This is a great help to her parents as it means he doesn’t have to go to after school club which he hates, although they do reward her with money to fund her love of clothes.

I  asked some of my son’s friends if they helped around the house.  All answered No except maybe tidying their room, despite their parents working full time and ferrying them to various football matches & training etc and supplying them with the latest xbox games etc.

So where does this leave us? It seems to be in lots of cases children get the things they want without having to earn them. Is this because we are at work more and life is so busy we parents feel guilty enough about being out all day to then share  a bit of housework amongst the children.

I have made an executive decision and am going to ask dear 15 yo to do something to help everyday, setting the table can be an easy task to start with, who knows he could be doing his own laundry by the time he’s 16.

National Poetry Day

We’ve just had National poetry day, not everyone’s cup of tea

but I like a bit of poetry, especially by me

It helps me feel creative and gets my brain in gear

the mix of words and rhyming lines just suddenly appear

I don’t write about agony or poems full of angst and pain

I’m more about the tired out mum who’s mojo’s down the drain

but that’s the beauty of a poem whatever you choose to write

you strike a chord in somebody who will find it a delight

so if you have a spare five minutes give a poem a try

you never know you just might  make a reader laugh or cry.

Dear child, a poem for mums of chattering children

 Dear child

A poem dedicated to parents of children who chatter all the time.

May you get 5 minutes peace.

x

Dear child, don’t you know

just how much I love you so

but all the questions

on and on

I feel as if my brain has gone

No the sun won’t melt you

yes Superman can fly

but NO! little children can’t so please don’t even try

Yes, I’m making lunch now

no you won’t grow as big as a tree

and I don’t think it’s a good idea to invite a pig to tea

I know you are inquisitive

and it’s answers that you need

and I love that you’ve an enquiring mind

but I can’t wait till you can read.

————————————————-©l.warren