10 reasons for Uni (and they’re all about me)


As a 14 year old my son is always out and about with friends, the older he’s getting the further he’s going, even though he’s a sensible kid I worry myself sick wondering if he’s ok.

Yes, I know that sounds stupid, especially as we have a 26 year old coaching football in America and I don’t worry about him (too much).

So as he gets older and is going to be attending concerts, clubs and festivals I’ve decided he should go to Uni for my sanity, i’m planning to try the ‘out of sight out of mind’ tack and won’t have to:

1. Wonder where he is.

2. Wonder what time he’s coming in.

3. Have to buy a million snacks a week.

4. Have to answer the door 20 times a day.

5. Manoeuvre around an obstacle course of long legs in the sitting room.

6. Notice that he hasn’t yet done his homework.

7. Have him relying on us parents. as he gains confidence and independence,

8. See him drunk!

9. Wonder where he is. (again)

10. Wonder what time he’s coming in. (again)

I think he’ll have more freedom, but will I feel any better?

What do you think, will my plan work?

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Don’t send flowers, I don’t mind.


We’re in the middle of funeral arrangements, when I say middle I don’t mean organising them I mean actually in the middle of what’s being arranged by others.

Let me explain….

30 years ago my husband got divorced, 20 years ago they lost their 17 year old daughter.

Now his ex-wife has died and her (now) husband wants her to be buried with her daughter.   This is where we come in, having the grave deeds etc, and it’s not an issue it’s right that they should be together again.

My husband will go to the funeral, so will his Mum and probably one Sister and it will be sad. As much as she was the ex-wife, I met her & she was a lovely person.

But this has made me think about funerals….

My husband wants to be buried with his daughter and that’s ok with me.

I don’t want any of that, I want a cardboard casket, cremation, scattered ashes on the garden.

I don’t want a grave where someone feels obliged to visit or tend.

I don’t want a funeral full of people I have not seen for 20 years saying “wasn’t she funny” and all that cr*p.

I don’t want a service of readings or anything said about me, because what’s the point.

I don’t need you to say goodbye, unless you only saw me the week before.

I know funerals are personal and everyone believes & wants different things, but unless you’re still part of that persons life, isn’t it just a bit fake.

What do you think?

Are you more like my friend who has made me vow to ensure Don’t stop me now by Queen is played as the curtains close on her cremation.


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Out Of The Dark and into the colourful.

Have you noticed lately how everything is about recycling, up-cycling and vintage finds, I love it but in my day it was just called second-hand.

When I was a child, furniture was mostly inherited. When I moved into my own home I bought everything new, and here we are again full circle back with the old stuff, but giving it a new twist.

When Kate at Crafts on Sea was looking for advice on setting up the Restore recycling project  I discovered Out of The Dark  , they were already on the same mission Kate was helping to set up, both providing support for vulnerable young people by engaging them in craft skills and revamping old unwanted furniture.

Out of The Dark charity projects are all about supporting young people achieve a better life and steer away from crime, and this project brings in the element of craft, DIY and work skills. Not to mention the development of self-esteem and confidence.

Here are some examples of their work:

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I decided to have a go myself  ask my husband to revamp a boring piece of furniture we had.




Sadly my rubbish photography doesn’t show it off as lovely as it really is. I think the next piece we do is definitely going to be more colourful and stylish just like Out of The Dark designs.

If you would like to see what’s for sale, get involved, or want more information on either project click the logo.





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